WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS,WE DEFINITELY SACRIFICE A LOT. WE COMPROMISE, BUT FOR WHAT? FOR THE ULTIMATE WELL-BEING OF BOTH THE PARTNERS. EVEN THROUGH A HELL LOT OF UPS AND DOWNS WE MANAGE TO STAND STRONG BECAUSE I BELIEVE LOVE SHOULD NOT BE SHAKY. WHAT MAKES THE BOND STRONG IS, TRUST AND EFFORTS TO STAY TOGETHER NO MATTER WHAT.
No doubt the above paragraph was in reference to relationships in the past, like those of our parents and grandparents. As we are getting acquainted with more and more technology, we are forgetting to live in the present. We are always on our phones. From text messages to video calls, all these have become the basis of a relationship nowadays. There is hardly any contact in person. Not everything can be solved over a short text. You need to meet them. I am not saying everyday, but regularly.
Breaking up over a text is so impolite. What if suddenly you woke up in the morning to a text from your beloved saying, ” This isn’t working anymore. I guess it would be better if we split up.” You would be confused right? You would be confused over as to what went wrong. But when you do that face to face, you get a chance to know your mistakes and even a chance to start your relationship all over again! Not joking, it’s 200% true. Similarly, when you want to propose someone, do it in person. Ask him/her out on some coffee date or movie date. I promise you that you WILL get a yes as reward.
Social media plays a vital role in worsening the already messed up situation. *Am I exaggerating a lot?* Ah, no. World War 3 begins over the issue of commenting or liking someone else’s picture, specifically of the opposite gender which brings me to the next point i.e. TRUST with a T.
The first and foremost thing in a relationship is trust, which can’t be seen nowadays. SAD. You’ve got to have trust in yourself, your partner and your relationship. Even if you’re committed to someone, you have no right to intrude into their personal space. If you do so then you might get to see an explosion. Come on duh, if they really love you they will not cheat on you. Don’t waste your time being Sherlock Holmes.
The issues which are actually affecting couples of this generation are( as quoted by Hitesh Ramchandani) :-
Adjustment issue, lack of respect for each other, boredom and infidelity issue.
Common mistakes people make with relationships
You’ve got to remember that the things that attract you about a person are the same things that you will hate about them in three years. What was spontaneous becomes irresponsible, what was structured becomes inflexible. Couples should refrain from misusing the word love. After a serious relationship of two or three years, the romance is bound to reduce. The mere newness of another person becomes attractive. When you share your personality with another person you feel very alive and a lot of people mistake that for love. We need a lifetime to understand what love and relationship is. Don’t term attraction, or a relationship that makes you feel young and loved as the actual one.